(I wrote this post in another one of my blogs, but it's worth repeating!)
We need 4 hugs a day for survival.
We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance.
We need 12 hugs a day for growth
—Virginia Satir, family therapist
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I am a very huggy, touchy, sensual tactile person and love to put my hands and arms around anyone and anything that moves or doesn’t move. My hands have a natural tendency to explore textures, hold things, caress, tenderly stroke, massage, play with things … oh yes, I guess, not surprisingly, I have a healing anointing in and through my hands.
Yesterday was a glorious sunny day in London (UK) after some rather dreary wet grey and cold weeks. I had a privilege to take a walk in Hampstead Heath with a very special friend of mine, Simone. This is her contribution to this blog.
Warmly,
Geli xx
"on a walk with a very dear friend on the gorgeous Hampstead Heath in London, on an Indian Summer afternoon in October, we chanced upon an ornamental lake. The lake had waterlilies growing on it and just one strong one had survived to autumn. It was tightly closed when we first saw it, and took this photograph.
The sun came out and warmed both us and the lake, and slowly but surely the waterlily began to open a little. It was magical watching this hesitant unfolding. However the sun was not consistent and although beautifully warm when it did come out, whenever the clouds covered the sun, it became quite cool.
As I gazed at this one surviving, strong waterlily, it occurred to me that there is a wisdom in flowers. The strongest ones do not open to their full glory with just a few moments of sun and warmth, allowing a passing stranger to glimpse their inner treasures. These wise flowers will only open fully when the warmth is consistent and long.
I am a survivor of an abusive relationship, and have for too long settled for less than I deserve in my romantic life.
I have felt a strong affinity for this gorgeous flower, and her wisdom in saving herself only for those times when she is bathed in warmth for consistent periods.
I wanted to share this with others.........if there is not consistent warmth, we need to remain tightly closed and open gradually, guardedly and safely, so that we too can remain the survivor. If this lily had been forced to open before she is fully ready, her petals will be torn and her beauty marred........and her life shortened far before its time.
No, I am not reducing Love to a mere metaphor, but each one of us experiences love differently.
I'm just curious ... what does Love mean to you, what needs to happen for you to experience and feel Love?
Here are some thoughts of others:
"Love is a many-splendored thing,
It's the April rose that only grows in the early spring,
Love is nature's way of giving a reason to be living,
The golden crown that makes a man a king.
Once on a high and windy hill,
In the morning mist two lovers kissed and the world stood still,
Then your fingers touched my silent heart and taught it how to sing,
Yes, true love's a many-splendored thing." (song from the 1955 film of the same title).
"Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance." 1 Corinthians 13 (New Living Translation)
"Love doesn't just sit there, like a stone; it has to be made, like bread, remade all the time, made new"
--Ursula K. Le Guin
"Love flies, runs, and rejoices;
it is free and nothing can hold it back."
--Thomas a Kempis
There are many beautiful posts listed on Beverly’s Pink Saturdaywhich she hosts at "How Sweet The Sound" all meant to make you feel cozy, happy, warm and loved. Please do visit them.
The whole idea of receiving an award, to me, is to keep giving it on. It's a way to say thank you to other blogging friends and honour them for their beautiful work.
I like to honour six ladies with this award. Please find their names and the links to their blogs at the end of this post.
First of all, I like to share some thoughts of some challenges I had today, and maybe it might serve as an encouragement to some of you dear readers:
Today was a 'funny old day' as they might say here in the UK, a day when 'pressing into a higher power' aka my precious Lord and Saviour was more necessary than at other days. A day of discouragement, I should say. A day when the distant cousin of Goliath ‘visited’ with all the intimidation, mockery and belittling with the sole purpose to make one not feel ever good enough.
I guess most of us have these people in our lives who seem to have that special assignment to suck all energy out and pull us down, often coupled with a need to control and manipulate with emotional blackmail as well ....
These situations can be painful, emotionally. But pain, the experience of hurt, is a fact of life, as Jesus put it: “I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.” John 16:33
I like the Message Translation for this scripture: “I've told you all this so that trusting me, you will be unshakable and assured, deeply at peace. In this godless world you will continue to experience difficulties. But take heart! I've conquered the world.”
The Apostle Paul continued with that ‘theme’ (again from the Message Translation):
“We continue to shout our praise even when we're hemmed in with troubles, because we know how troubles can develop passionate patience in us, and how that patience in turn forges the tempered steel of virtue, keeping us alert for whatever God will do next. In alert expectancy such as this, we're never left feeling short changed. Quite the contrary—we can't round up enough containers to hold everything God generously pours into our lives through the Holy Spirit!” Romans 5:3
Yes, pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional! Suffering comes when situations beyond our control happen, when our life conditions don’t match the expectations or the model of what we hope our world to be, and we feel powerless to change it. However, that is precisely the time to remember: suffering is optional; we can chose to be of good cheer and peace, pressing into His Grace, because His Grace is sufficient, and He has conquered the world and all this misery. We may feel the pain, but we must rise into His rest and peace and not yield to the debilitating temptation of suffering. It is a choice!
So, how do I exercise that choice? I turn the volume up with anointed worship. Today, I needed to get into a warrior prayer storm first ... ya knows what I mean!! ... and that determined what style of worship I chose. It’s a labouring, striving therefore to enter into that rest (Hebrews 4:11), and yay! It’s so good when one pushes through that membrane or veil of hindrance to just ‘dissolve’ in His goodness and love! His plan of Love is bigger than our understanding of what’s going on. Thus we’re not powerless; we can, by choice, move in a different realm of reality. The Greater One in us has taken care of it; Goliath’s head (spiritually) rolls!
Well, it was, thus a lovely sweet surprise to find, this evening, Gracie having given me this unexpected gift of the award, but her words characterizing me as "a well traveled woman who is very wise", left me humbled with gratitude!
Oh, I nearly forgot .... In order to receive this award, there are some rules, apparently. I must reveal 6 things that you may not know about me. Well, I started putting this list together and it started to grow and got longer and longer. It became 6 Areas About Me that You May Not Know
However, I will quickly note down 6 things about me I might not have detailed in the above link (and then this post will also meet the requirements, too ... smile).
Just a little reminder, if you want to watch the YouTube videos full screen, click on the bottom right hand corner of each video .... and of course, to see the photos in their original size, just click on them. :-))
(1) I'm a passionate romantic
I could so easily forget about all work and just snuggle. I am a skin 'addict' I love touching skin, massaging and caressing skin, with fragrant oils, feathers, or a deliciously tantalising raindrop finger massage - and just loving on the owner of that skin ....
(2) I love music and sensuous dancing
.... especially Tango. There's something about a non-public dance, in the livingroom or wherever ....
(3) I love music, culture and art
To those who know me, it's no secret, I am a huge Al Di Meola fan! Hence chosing this video comes as no surprise.
However, my music interest spans very wide. Not just jazz (esp. Latin Jazz Fusion), but also classical (esp. baroque) and many, many more styles. Not keen on rap, hip hop and country (sorry).
(4) I love travelling seeing the world, experiencing different cultures. Kind of ties in with the previous point.
especially Southeast Asia and beyond ....
(5) I love my friends and enjoy entertaining at home
I should really take more photos of my table decorations. Here I created a blue theme. I absolutely love creating a relaxing and welcoming ambiance, an oasis of tranquility and beauty!
(6) I am a worshipper, eventhough it appears on number six on this list, it is actually my number ONE priority of importance in life, the crowning glory - Intimate Worship the dance of eternal Love with the Eternal Lover!
OK, that's all about me for the time being. Now to my six friends.
1. Spirituality and Church
2. Family
3. Education
4. Government and Law
5. Media and Communication
6. Arts and Entertainment
7. Business and Finance
So, thank you Tara for training and coaching women of excellence in the market place!
(my request to you, write more, please!).
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Are there any of you who are really feminine and ever so often need a a relaxing breather to exhale? Well, hop over to Rosy at Rosy Inspirations to where the award goes next. I just love that place, thank you for creating this oasis of calm and nurturing!
Next I'd like to honour Mary at "One Perfect Bite" her cuisine is absolutely exquisite, plus she gives recipes. (Mary, I like to mention that you inspired me to set up my own food - cookery blog. Essentially for my kids as I neglected to teach them to speak German properly and I have so many German recipes Angelika's Kochbuch . All I need is time and more time to translate all those recipes into English). Anyway, those of you who have not had a chance to peruse Mary's amazing culinary delights, please visit her blog.
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I would also like to honour Rev Deb of Bread Breakers Ministry it's a virtual church in a blog with solid Bible teaching and encouragement.
Oh, I am really feeling kinda cozy pinkilicious romantic and would like some more .... ha!
It all started when a friend came over the other day. Would you believe it, we talked just about all night through, and finally, towards the morning, we decided to watch the movie "Don Juan de Marco" with Johnny Depp, Marlon Brando, and Faye Dunaway.
Aahhhh, a real girly night which very rarely happens to me these days, so it was all a very unexpected relaxing fun night.
Anyway, I decided to look for a video with the movie theme song "Have You Ever Really Loved A Woman" by Bryan Adams (oh, just listen to those lyrics .... !!!). I decided on the following videos. Loads of delicious pink from Faye Dunaway's ever again twirling romantic dress. Unfortunately the long blue introduction by the people who put the YouTube video together is really annoying.
WARNING WARNING THESE VIDEOS ARE EXTREME GIRLY ROMANTIC MATERIAL ..... you have been warned, guys!
Now that you're feeling all warm and oh so pinky romantic please check out the other beautiful pink happy blog posts listed Beverly’s Pink Saturdaywhich she hosts at "How Sweet The Sound" . So, if you want a big dose of Happy Pink feelings, then visit all these wonderful blogs she has linked from her site.
I am a very huggy, touchy, sensual tactile person and love to put my hands and arms around anyone and anything that moves or doesn’t move. My hands have a natural tendency to explore textures, hold things, caress, tenderly stroke, massage, play with things … oh yes, I guess, not surprisingly, I have a healing anointing in and through my hands.
"on a walk with a very dear friend on the gorgeous Hampstead Heath in London, on an Indian Summer afternoon in October, we chanced upon an ornamental lake. The lake had waterlilies growing on it and just one strong one had survived to autumn. It was tightly closed when we first saw it, and took this photograph. 
I could so easily forget about all work and just snuggle. I am a skin 'addict' I love touching skin, massaging and caressing skin, with fragrant oils, feathers, or a deliciously tantalising raindrop finger massage - and just loving on the owner of that skin ....
I should really take more photos of my table decorations. Here I created a blue theme. I absolutely love creating a relaxing and welcoming ambiance, an oasis of tranquility and beauty!
